My passion for understanding the deeper dynamics between mothers and daughters started, as I write in The Silent Female Scream and The Mother-Daughter Puzzle, with my own struggles with my mother. And when my daughter was born I knew that I had to understand what had gone wrong between my mother and I, so that history wouldn’t repeat itself. I knew that I had to end the pattern of emotional silencing, emotional neglect, and sacrifice that had limited my mother’s and grandmother’s lives, and harmed their relationship with each other. I had to learn how to voice my emotional truth, my emotional needs, and raise my expectation to be heard and emotionally supported, so that my daughter would learn how to speak this new emotional language.
What started as a personal quest quickly grew into a life-long passion of understanding and healing what is causing today’s epidemic of mother-daughter conflict. I did not want mother and daughters to keep suffering in silence. And I wanted to create a new conversation that takes mother-daughter relationship conflict seriously, and honors how central the mother-daughter relationship is to women’s psychological development, emotional empowerment, and fight for equality.
Everything I have done over the last thirty years has led to this moment!
Facilitated my first mother-daughter workshop in New Zealand in 1993
Graduated from the University of Canterbury, New Zealand, with a Bachelors degree in Education in 1993
Graduated from Indiana University, with a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology in 1997
Professional Member of the American Counseling Association (ACA) since 1998
Accredited & Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP) since 1998
Opened my private practice specializing in the mother-daughter relationship in England, in 1998. Today I have an international private practice seeing mothers and daughters individually, or as a couple, in my office in New Hampshire, USA, or through Skype
Internationally recognized expert on the mother-daughter relationship, presenting workshops, talks, and keynote addresses at conferences in Europe, Australasia, and North America
Supervising and mentoring colleagues throughout the world
Author of The Silent Female Scream and The Mother-Daughter Puzzle, along with various articles – see articles page to download my articles
Adjunct lecturer at Nottingham Trent University, England, School of Education
Created Women’s Power CirclesTM in 2008
Featured in women’s magazines and newspapers like Psychologies, Vice, Cosmopolitan, Cosmo Pregnancy, Mother & Baby, She, Prima, The Times
Guest on BBC Radio and various local radio stations
Keynote speaker at the Women’s Federation for World Peace Conference, London, UK
Presenter at the Feminism and Teaching Symposium, University of Nottingham, UK
Presenter at the Women’s Federation for World Peace European Conference presentation, Madrid, Spain
Creator of the best-practice Mother-Daughter Attachment ModelTM and the diagnostic exercise Mother-Daughter History MappingTM
Huffington Post Blogger on women’s issues and the mother-daughter relationship since 2013
University of New Hampshire, guest lecturer, School of Nursing
Presentation for the Cambridge Eating Disorder Center, Portsmouth, USA.
Listed as expert on Gender Issues on United Nations Women Roster
Presented talks for Merrill Lynch on women’s relationship with money
Adjunct Lecturer at University of New Hampshire, Peter T. Paul College of Business and Economics, developer and instructor of course on Women in Leadership
Speaks at the 61st Session of the UN Commission on the Status of Women.
Presented at a Family Therapy Conference, UK and Mental Health Counselors Conference, Florida, and to Norwegian Psychology Students in Budapest
Started blogging for the American Counseling Association
Invited guest on Canadian TV
Published article in Counseling Today, an American Counseling Association publication